Tales of a Phototrotter

Dos and Don’ts for Men

# 12 Do Kiss Like You Mean It  

Do you remember your first kiss?  Of course you do.  You know exactly where you were and what you were wearing.  You remember the bats in your stomach, the sweat on your palms, the tightness in your eyes, and the fear in your heart.  You remember wondering if you should use your tongue, if your braces would cut her, and how long you should keep your eyes shut.  But what you remember the most isn’t how it went, it’s how you felt.  As if nothing else mattered.  You don’t remember because you were curious.  You remember because you wanted it to mean something.  

Do you remember your 2,123rd  kiss?  

Of course you don’t.

When we kiss someone new, it’s exciting.  It’s our first pludge into experiencing the other person.  We take our time, bathe in it, get lost.  Our mindset is set on discovery.  We are open to explore.  Once we’re in a relationship, kissing becomes routine.  The exploration is over.  We use it as a handshake, a hi, a bye, a see ya later.  Or a transition.  But rarely do we kiss to discover.  We forget the meaning behind kissing.  Kissing means to express, connect, validate, assure, give, share, explore, and discover.  

MEN:  Hold her face, touch her lips, look into her soul.  Kiss her as if time doesn’t exist, as if it’s the only way you could express yourself.  Use it as an emotional thermometer.  Kissing is not a means to an end.  It is not a transition.  It is an experience and each one stands alone.

(via theangrytherapist)